Rajkumari Sharma Tankha
Feeling suicidal? Well, you are not alone. Most of us go through such intense feelings of incompetence some time or the other in life that force us to think like on these lines. Though at the moment you may feel that suicide is the only option, believe me, it is not. There is no problem in the world which doesn’t have a solution and no lock that doesn’t have a key to it. The feelings you have at the moment come for fleeting seconds; the idea is to tackle these feelings head on, and not get overwhelmed by them.
When you get a suicidal thought, don’t turn it into action immediately. Promise yourself not to do anything at that very moment. Give it time. Think it over. Is killing yourself the only option? Have you tried all options to tackle the problem that is forcing to commit suicide? Can you not seek help from someone? Just a little delay will pull you away from the actual action.
Think about the reasons
For teenagers, a tiff with the best friend, a breakup with a boy/girl friend, an adverse remark on the height, weight, colour, dress sense or simply not being able to gel with the peer group due to different family values are reasons for having feelings of inadequacy which may lead to development of suicidal thoughts.
So, hold on and think. Think hard. Are any of the reasons that you cite good enough to end your life? Is your girl/boy friend the last girl/boy on the earth? Are the people who make fun of the way your talk or dress so important to you that you can end your life for them? Or will your committing suicide have any effect on their lives? I am sure the answers to all these questions will be a big NO. So, why take the extreme step? Stop, think beyond these people.
Think about your family and friends
When you feel like killing yourself, just divert your thoughts from yourself to your parents, siblings and real friends. Think how they will be affected when they come to know about your suicide. Think how earth-shattering will it be for them. Just put yourself in their shoes and imagine if any of your loved ones does such a thing, how will it affect you?
Share. Don’t keep your thoughts to yourself
When negative feelings abound you, speak to a friend, a family member, a teacher, a family doctor, a coach or just call up your local helpline number. Pour out your heart to people you trust; don’t let feelings of fear, shame or embarrassment prevent you from seeking help. Psychologists say that just talking about your problems can release a lot of stress from your mind making way for finding solutions. Understand that seeking help is not a sign of weakness; it is a sign of possessing great wisdom, a wisdom which makes you understand and accept your shortcomings.
Avoid alcohol and drugs
Don’t drink alcohol and consume drugs. Both these things take away your sanity and clarity of mind. When you have a problem at hand, you need a clear mind to work out its solutions, and drugs numb the mind. Suicidal thoughts can become strong if you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
Get out in the sun or amid nature
When dark thoughts depress you, get out of your room, the four walls of your home. Venture out in the open. Soak under sun, breathe in fresh air. These two things alone are great stress busters. In fact, make it a habit to go for a walk and be amid people for half-an-hour daily.