Rajkumari Sharma Tankha
This one may come as a big surprise for you but, a recent study has revealed that babies as young as 15 months can learn the value of hard work when they see their parents struggling to achieve a goal. The babies themselves tried harder at their own difficult tasks after watching an adult in the family struggle to reach two different goals before succeeding than the babies who saw an adult succeed effortlessly.
The study is likely to offer some guidance for parents hoping to instill the value of effort in their children. In the study, the team focused on how kids might learn, at a very early age, how to decide when to try hard and when it’s not worth the effort. For the study, the team designed an experiment in which 15-month-old babies first watched an adult perform two tasks. The babies were then given a musical toy whose button to turn the toy did not work.
Babies who had seen researchers struggle before succeeding pressed the button nearly twice as many times overall as those who saw the adult easily succeed. They also pressed it nearly twice as many times before first asking for help or tossing the toy. Importantly, the study showed that people appear to be able to learn, from an early age, how to make decisions regarding effort allocation, the researchers noted.
so, what is the secret of raising hardworking kids? Do the following:
Praise their effort
Praising kids for traits like being smart, athletic or a natural doesn’t make for hardworking kids. Praising your child’s effort focuses on things your child can change. Success is possible because of effort, perseverance, strategy and creativity. Kids praised for effort will see challenge as a good thing, not one to hide from for fear they will make mistakes. They know it’s exactly this challenge that will help them even more. And they value the hard work it takes to improve and reach their goals.
Embrace your child’s mistakes as learning tools. Mistakes are inevitable. Though disappointing, a mistake isn’t something to avoid at all costs.
Otherwise, kids shy away from challenges or don’t do good work. At worst, kids might resort to cheating or winning by any means necessary.
Have them make dinner:
Putting your children in charge of a meal will have multiple benefits. It not only helps them to learn cooking, a valuable life skill. Though it means everyone in their family will be dependent on them for an evening and their work will determine whether or not the people they love get to eat. This scenario benefits kids who need to learn about the fulfillment that doing work to benefit everyone can do.
If the only thing that we push our kids to do is the average amount, then they will coast through life at that level. This means they could be missing out on their full potential. Make sure the goals your children set out to achieve are challenging and difficult although still accomplishable. Your kids need to learn what it means to want something so badly, and then be able to get it after a great amount of effort.